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Am I Gay?
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By: Paul
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I am not personally asking this question, this is for anyone who is wondering what
they are.
This is probably the most asked question at the Gay/Les/Bi forum. And while the
questions and the situations may be different, the answer is always the same.
If you want to see some questions that normally get asked as well as the answer,
skip to the bottom.
Growing up, I remember being very confused about what I was feeling inside. I knew
I *should* like girls, but while I found them attractive in a fashion, it was not
a sexual way. When I looked at girls it never went beyond thinking this girl or
that girl looked nice. But when I closed my eyes, pictured sex, a relationship,
etc I saw only a guy.
I had the opportunity, once, to do some sexual type things with a girl. This involved
making out, and feeling up and so forth. While I did get turned on by this, and
she did try to give me a BJ, it was not right. It did not feel like it was *supposed*
to feel. I had fun, but there was nothing there that I could have a relationship
with.
Here are some questions that we get asked a lot of times, your situation may be
similar or may be completely different.
I go out with members of the opposite sex and really like it. But sometimes I look
at a member of the same sex and I get turned on. Does that make me gay or bi?
I got drunk at a party last night and a member of the same sex and I started making
out and had sex. Does that make me gay or bi?
I get turned on by gay porn. Does that make me gay or bi?
I was taking a shower in gym yesterday and couldn't stop staring at one (or all)
of my classmates. Does that make me gay or bi?
I am totally in love with my bf/gf but I would like to get another person of my
same sex involved in a 3some. Does that make me gay or bi?
I only like members of the opposite sex, but I keep having a fantasy involving a
member of my same sex. Does that make me gay or bi?
The list goes on and on.
But the answer is simply this:
Having sex with someone of either gender does not make you anything. Labels are
useless, some people need them to define who they are, but they need to define it
themselves.
People get turned on by a lot of different things. Sometimes it's some object, sometimes
it's a person or action. Being turned on by something, especially a person of your
same sex, does not mean that you want to have a relationship with them. It just
means that you get turned on by it. Just because I get turned on by a toaster does
not mean I want to have a relationship with it :)
If you look inside your heart and you picture who you want to be with, not sexually,
but in a relationship with, that is the best guide you'll ever have. But one thing
that I always try to tell people is not to limit yourself. I may go my entire life
being with only one guy, or maybe just guys. But I am open to falling in love with
a girl too. My love does not see a gender, it sees a person.
So if you're asking us to tell you what you are, we can't. Even if we had all the
facts, we still couldn't. You are the only person that can say who and what you
are. But it's important you do not stress out over it. If you're confused now, just
relax and eventually you'll figure it out.
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