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Parents' Biggest Mistake
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By: LilDee069
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This is an article for anyone to read, but
specifically goes out to the parents!
There's a gay guy I knew named Jo. He knew he was
gay from the time he started kindergarten, but
denied it all his life. The only person he ever
told was me, a bisexual friend of his and I vowed
to never tell a soul without his permission.
About a year and a half ago he decided that on
his birthday he would tell his parents before he
told anyone else. It was his 21st birthday and he
figured he was a grown man and they couldn't hurt
him no matter how they reacted. He woke up
thinking about how he would tell them. When he
walked downstairs to the kitchen, he saw his
mother washing dishes and his father reading the
comics in the newspaper drinking the last cup of
coffee. He sat down at the table across form his
father and his mother asked him what he wanted to
eat for breakfast. When he replied with
a "nothing," she became concerned because he
always ate breakfast before he went to work. She
stopped what she was doing and walked over to
him, putting her hand on his shoulder and
asked "What's wrong..". His father looked up at
him while taking a sip of his coffee and folding
his newspaper. They had always been supportive of
him and listened to everything he had to say
about anything. Jo started to cry and held his
head in his hands. They both stood over him like
hawks and made him feel nervous, but he still
managed to blurt it out. "I'm gay!" His father
stepped away from Jo and his mother took her
hands off his shoulders in shock. He heard his
mother start to say "It's just a..." and he
stopped her. "No Mom, I'm gay!" His mother
started to cry while his father started to yell.
His parents decided that night to make him move
out and live on his own with his "decision".
Jo moved out and about a week later found a
boyfriend. About two weeks later, Jo became
really sick and also unhappy with the entire
world, including his boyfriend. A week later, he
was left alone all over again with no one but me
to support and help him. I went over to his house
to try and comfort him and instead, I only found
a note from him on the door, telling me not to
come inside and that he went out for a while to
think about things. I left and called for several
hours trying to get in touch with him. Then i got
the nerve to go back over to his house and found
the door open a tiny bit. I walked in calling for
him and never received an answer. So I walked in
his bedroom to see if maybe he was asleep.
Instead of finding him, I found a new handwritten
letter to his parents. Knowing I shouldn't have
read it, I did anyway and when reading it, I
started to cry. I ran around the house hoping
what his note had said was just thoughts and not
actions. I hoped this with all my heart until I
went in the garage to see if his car was there
and it wasn't. His body was laying on the ground
bleeding from the head and a gun next to his left
hand. I rushed inside crying and called 911.
About a week later they had the funeral and in
his letter he specificaly wrote NOT to let his
parents to the funeral or the reception. I showed
the letter to the lawyer of his parents and the
funeral organizer and everyone else I thought to
prevent them from coming. Also in the letter, he
told his parents to tell me, "Tell the whole
world this story so that I can prevent things
from happening like this all over the world!" I
find that there are a lot of people on this site
that are homosexual with the same frustrations as
Jo had. I feel that maybe this article may help a
few realize, that just because a person is gay,
it doesn't make them abnormal. They still have
feelings and a heart. His parents broke his, and
I pray that other parents may take this to heart
and realize that it isn't worth losing a lifetime
of bonding and understanding for their mixed up
morals and misinterpretations of homosexuality of
their child, their blood and their most cherished
people living, their own creation!
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