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How I came out to my Dad by accident

Germany is a crazy country..... They drive fast, they have a strange sense of humor (but it's good), and they celebrate CARNIVAL like it was their last days on planet earth. Back in Switzerland we celebrated Carnival a little different.... and this year.... I wanted to celebrate it like the Germans do.

My friend Dani, (who is gay), my best female friend Tatti (who is a lesbian), Tobi (who is my EX) and me were planning a Carnival Party at our house..... My parents allowed us to invite some friends, but NO alcohol and NO drugs ! So we invited Tatti's girlfriend Natasha, and our schoolmates Phil, Gilles, Danny, Nadine and Michael. Well, the party started at 8pm on "Carnival Friday." We sat around in my room listening to some music, talking and...... we played TRUTH or DARE. For some reason, Tatti didn't want to answer the question if she ever had sex with a boy, so we ordered her to sing T.a.t.U - All the things she said LIVE. Ok... she did that and she did it great. I got the idea ... well Tatti and T.a.t.U doesn't sound too different.... she is a lesbian.... so why not let her and Nash perform like T.a.t.U? Well.... said and done.... They both did it and they did a great performance! In the end, Tatti and Natasha ended up laying on my bed, kissing wild! At the same time, my Ex Tobi and my mate Dani came closer and they started to kiss as well..... Danny and Nadine.... too.... cuz they were a couple anyways. So they all kissed except me, Michael, Phil and Gilles. I thought, hell, I wanna kiss someone too. But whom? So I asked Michael if he wants to kiss with me... just for fun. He was a little surprised and looked like an atomic bomb exploded right in front of him. To make it short.... He kissed me... I kissed back and we ended up making out on the bed, right beside Tatti and Nash. I dunno why..... but I thought it would be nice if Michael could stay here for the whole night. I wouldn't say I was horny or something, I just wanted someone to cuddle with. I felt a little lonely after I broke up with Tobi and I needed someone to hug me and stuff. Well, at 11:30 our friends had to leave, because they had to go back by bus (my parents were out.... so they couldn't drive em home). Tobi and Dani went over to Dani's room (I have to add that Dani stayed with my family until June 2003, because his parents were still in Switzerland til then). Michael wanted to stay here (yay yay yay) and when all the others had left I sat on my bed with Michael. We were talking about this n that.... then we watched a DVD (Breakfast at Tiffany's - a very romantic 1960's movie, starring the gorgeous Audrey Hepburn). The nite with Michael was sweet and it was about 4am when I fell asleep in his arms.

In the morning, I heard someone knocking at my door. I thought I was dreaming, but ok, there was someone knocking at my door. I was half asleep, half awake and Michael was laying right next to me. We were naked and suddenly the door opened..... MY DAD..... OMG! I think I woke up when I saw him. I didn't say anything, he didn't say anything. He closed the door. I was OMG..... he saw us in bed, naked. But then 2 seconds later...... *knock knock* again. OMG my dad again. I thought he would freak out. But NO, he just knocked at my door and I could hear him saying: "Guys, come upstairs if you want to have a late breakfast." ooooomph! What a surprise in the morning! Michael started to laugh and said "OMG your dad is the coolest dad in the world." I was not sure if I should laugh or cry. Well we went upstairs to have some hot chocolate and stuff. My dad didn't say anything. He just sat at the table and had breakfast. I thought to myself, "HELL, what does he think now?"

After breakfast, Michael, my mother, and I (she already knew I was gay - I told her) went to Frankfurt. I asked her if Dad said anything and she just said "NO, he didn't say a word. Well, when I got back home, I went upstairs to my dad's office and I talked to him. I needed to know what he was thinking. He is not a man of too many words, except when he is talking about his job. But he asked me if I am gay and I said I don't know, but right now I think I am. His reaction was unexpected but cool. He just said, "ok Ren-Sven, I can't tell you what is good or what is bad, because I am not gay or bi. You must know what you want and what is good for you, but be sure you're safe."

.............WOW........... !

I never thought my dad could be that cool! I REALLY LOVED HIM FOR BEING SUCH A COOL DAD ! Well, since then he knows I am into boys.